Flashback to the late 80's/ early 90's (did I just date myself?). The dance is this weekend and you've been scouring the mall for days trying to find THE outfit. You've checked all of the major stores and finally, right as you are about to give up hope, you find it. The combination of this outfit, the blue eyeshadow, your new body splash, and the amount of hold that you can get in your hair with that aquanet hair spray will guarantee the most perfect night that you have ever had in your entire life. You walk into the gym beaming with confidence, searching the room for that certain someone. Tonight is the night. Tonight is YOUR night. Fast forward to the end of the dance. Was it your night? Did all of your dreams come true? Did you have an amazing night with all of your friends; one that you will remember for the rest of your life? Chances are that at least one dance which you attended was spent crying in the bathroom but, hopefully, it is not the one that you remember above all the others. Was the power in the outfit? Or was it in the confidence that you found in wearing it?
The holidays are approaching and that means parties. As I have been searching for a dress to wear, I find myself right back where I was twenty plus years ago. I'm searching for the thing that is going to give me the confidence that I need to go into these parties and be the strong, beautiful, witty, charming person that I fancy myself to be. Forget who I actually am. When faced with a social situation of this magnitude, who I actually am is thrown out the window and I feel the sudden need to be Grace Kelly. I mean, come on, she did become an actual real life princess. But wait. Aren't I the daughter of the one true King? A co heir with Christ? Am I not clothed with strength and dignity and able to laugh without fear of the future (Proverbs 31: 25)? What would happen if I walked into that Christmas party with the confidence of who God has created me to be? Proverbs 3:26 says that the Lord will be our confidence and will keep our foot from being caught (or tripped up in those heels). If I were to fully know who God has created me to be and walk boldly in that identity, my clothes would not matter. I wouldn't need a power suit because my power would come from within; from God. Humility does not consist of a poor self esteem, not thinking highly of ourselves is not giving God glory. God wants us to walk boldly in who He has made us to be, living in joy and not fearing what is to come because we trust that He's got us through it all. Confidence found in Christ, overflowing in our hearts, spilling over into our character. That is what causes us to walk boldly into the dance (or Christmas party) and have the most epic night of our lives.
Although if I did have a power suit, it would absolutely include that bright pink sweater that I tried on while searching for the perfect dress.
Listen this week as Amanda and Kristy discuss mall shopping, parties, and where our confidence lies.
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